The test of our principles is in dealing with people who don't share them.

 

This quote – oh how it has come to resonate with me for the last few months.  My principles have never been tested as they have been of late; my principles seem to never really have been tested before. 

And yet, WOW – how they are tested now over and over again. 

We all have principles by which we live our lives.  We might require honesty or respect or integrity from ourselves and those we hold close.  We might choose loyalty as one of our principles or dedication or honor.  Perhaps love is one of the principles by which we live our lives or commitment or materialism.  Perhaps our principles are all very different and change with time and growth, but we all have them.  We all have those ideals and boundaries and priorities by which we live our lives.  They are the model we present to the world; the model we provide to our kids and ourselves. 

If most tare like me, they live their lives without these principles truly being tested.  After all, we usually keep company with those who share some of our principles and life values.  If we value honesty, rarely do we knowingly choose to spend time with someone who chooses dishonesty as a way of life.  If we value materialism, we probably don’t choose to keep close company with someone who shuns such a lifestyle. 

Principles – they are as singular to each of us at a given point in time as the color of our eyes, our experiences, and the life that we live. 

For months now I have had to look at my principles and consider their role in my life.  Is it worth it to keep honesty as such a high priority when I have seen that dishonesty brings happiness and trust and unconditional love? 

Is it worth my time to live in integrity?

Valuing the time a person gives and the gift of the person themselves over the materialistic… is that worth keeping?  Perhaps it is easier to have someone buy my love and respect over simply accepting the gift of the self with an open and accepting heart?

Empathy – something that takes time and objectivity and  an open heart… would my time be better spent as the system in which I apparently live is more concerned with logistics and quantitative information over emotions and character and qualities?

You name one of my driving principles – the foundations of my adult life and all the model I have used to raise my daughter – and they are each continually thrown at me in disarray of late.  Each principle is being tested. 

I will tell you, it isn’t fun.  It is not a happy experience.  It is an experience that has found me in tears of frustration because I am who I am.  I have lived my life according to these core principles and now those very principles are shattered around my feet.